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Episode 14: Is It Okay Not to Be Okay? (Part 2)

In this episode, our hosts are joined once again by Dr. Tito Almadin, to discuss practical tips on taking care of our mental and emotional health.

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4:00 How do we practically take care of our mental and emotional health?

  • The World Health Organization declared that every 40 seconds, someone commits suicide.
  • More than 300 million people all over the world are suffering from a mental disorder or are going through a depressive episode.
  • Five components of our health: mental, physical, spiritual, emotional, and relational well being

6:10 Journey to a Healthy Self

  • None of us are born without health issues.
  • We are born in a polluted world. We needed to be vaccinated from diseases. And we also have threats on the rest of our health.
  • We may just have the same number of mental illnesses and physical diseases!
  • Our soul (composed of emotions, mind, and will) is precious.

“For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?”

Mark 8:36

  • Self-care is not being selfish or self-absorbed. Self-care is loving the body that God has entrusted to us.
  • Spiritually, self-care means going through the discipleship process and practicing spiritual disciplines in order to grow. Self-care should be holistic, however, and involve the rest of the five components, including our emotional, mental, and relational well-being.

8:37 Principles for Self-Care

  • These are practical, preventive measures.
  • We use the acronym SELF CARE. 

9:15 SELF CARE: A Journey to a Healthy Self

  1. S – Stop the stigma and express yourself.
  • I will speak for myself and be myself.
  • The reason for the high number of people suffering from mental disorders is because of the stigma attached to being vulnerable and to sharing any emotional hurt.
  • People are reluctant to share because there seems to be a fear of being labelled as a weakling or a second-class citizen.
  • No one should be stigmatized because everyone is imperfect in this broken world.
  • You face your real self everyday, not your ideal self.
  • Our aim should not be the ideal self, but a happy self that is content regardless of the circumstance, with a certain level of peace, comfort, and security. 
  • Don’t label yourself. People already know you are imperfect. Admit your weaknesses but also know that there is hope for as long as we live. 
  • Ps. Tito: “I myself undergo counseling three times a year.”
  • We don’t have an image to protect. We simply protect the witness as followers of Jesus Christ. 
  • “I have nothing to prove and no one to impress.” “Magpakatotoo ka.”

15:00

  1. E – Engage Yourself in a Healthy Lifestyle
  • I will be in good health as my strong weapon.
  • Be conscious about your physical health as well. 
  • Watch what you eat.
  • Practice self-control. Don’t indulge. Eat in moderation.
  • There is such a thing as nutritional psychiatry. Food rich in probiotics and Omega-3 are a big help to having healthy brain cells.
  • Make sure you have enough sunlight and water. Invest in vitamin supplements.
  • Have enough sleep and take time to rest.
  • Don’t indulge in vices that could lead to addiction and disrupt our health: smoking, drinking, gaming, overeating, pornography.
  • If you are suffering from addiction, get help.

18:45

  1. L – Leadership is the Key
  • I will lead myself so I can support others as well.
  • You are a leader to yourself first. Self-governance is key.
  • Leadership is becoming of help.

“The generous will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed.”

Proverbs 11:25

  • Helping others help you as well, because it makes you become less self-absorbed. 

21:28

  1. F – Forgiveness is a choice.
  • I will forgive myself and others to move forward in life.
  • We get hurt and we hurt others. We get wounded and we inflict wounds on others. We get offended and we bring offense to others.
  • We need to forgive, not for the other person’s sake but for ours, because we need to be free from the poison of bitterness.
  • You do not have to forgive and forget, but rather to forgive and be healed. Do not allow yourself to suffer from the effects of unforgiveness. 
  • You get peace and comfort from releasing forgiveness. 

24:10

  1. C – Connect with loved ones and friends.
  • I will cherish meaningful relationships.
  • No relationship is perfect because you, your loved ones, and your friends are all imperfect.
  • Cherish meaningful relationships.
  • Connection with spiritual family is essential to spiritual growth. 
  • Make sure you have close friends in the church who know what is going on in your life.

26:28

  1. A – Accept the present reality.
  • I will acknowledge that there are things in life that I cannot control.
  • What can I learn from the circumstance? 
  • Don’t focus on what has been lost or on what is not happening at present. Instead, embrace the present reality.
  • Not being able to accept the present reality leads to either escaping or ignoring it. This eventually leads to either emotional or mental breakdown.
  • At present, we are only deprived of certain things, but we are not deprived of life, and that is already good news.

28:18

  1. R – Reach out for help.
  • I’m not alone in this battle and will seek help and support.
  • It’s not shameful to ask for help. 
  • It’s better for us to collaborate. 
  • Help is always available. We can ask for help from a healing community to process things and give practical and godly counsel.
  • As a leader, when we can no longer help those we lead, we can refer them to others in the church community who can.

31:10

  1. E – Entrust all your worries and burdens to God. 
  • I will let go and let God.
  • The best thing in life is to be intimate and close to God–to hear from God and to be heard by God.
  • We can voice our concerns and complaints to God.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”

Philippians 4:6

  • Let us not lose hope. 
  • Remove ANTS (anxious, negative thoughts) from your mind. Don’t just do a monologue about your thoughts. Dialogue with God.
  • God is on our side. He will always be there to help us out.

36:50 How can you love yourself and not be narcissistic?

  • Let God be the center of your life. When you do, you are able to love God, love yourself, and love others.
  • Loving yourself is a stewardship of the life God has given you.
  • Be mindful of the Lord being in the equation.
  • Self-care in this sense will not be skin-deep.
  • We want to do self-care so that we can care for others properly.
  • Look beyond the crisis and focus on who Christ is. 

Today on Campus is hosted by Dave Estrera and Jello de los Reyes. In this episode, they are joined by a professional counselor, Dr. Tito Almadin. Message Dr. Almadin if you have more questions at @beyondgoodadvice on Facebook or Instagram.

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