Every leader has to work through relationships. We discuss how we can stay connected with others, even when anxiety manifests in the relationship.
1:50 – Introduction
The leader has to work through relationships, because leadership is about our connection with others. The hard part is when a difference emerges—we then begin to feel anxiety and the anxiety shows up in the relationship.
7:25 – 4 ways anxiety manifests in relationships, according to The Leader’s Journey
The hallmark of conflict in an anxiety-riddled system is an all-or-nothing thinking.
We think conflict is the problem. But when we eliminate the conflict without dealing with the anxiety that produces the conflict, the symptom is sure to recycle itself or show up through a different symptom.
This is when we withdraw emotionally, when we “keep relationships peaceful, but superficial.”
“A congregation where people refuse to act in a more than superficial level is an anxious system.”
3. Over-functioning and under-functioning
We can identify under-functioning, but we also need to identify over-functioning in ourselves.
We have to let others take responsibility for their actions. That is an act of love.
This is when we project inner anxieties to external reality.- Are we as honest with what’s going on inside of us?
Confess and ask: I’m anxious and I’m worried, Lord. How can I lean in to you? How can I believe and trust you?
19:55 – Common case studies of anxiety manifesting in relationships
The ENC Leadership Podcast is hosted by Joseph Bonifacio.
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